Jeroen

1. In the first place we need to handle fear. Synergy is only taking place when there is an commitment from both sides. Fear is in many situations what holds us back in communication to the full extend.
2. Then there is the matter of definition. Because we are looking from so many different directions, we all have a different view of matters. That is the strength of the matter, but it is also the weakness of it. It al comes back to defining it in such a way, that we all know what everyone is saying.
3. Then there is the matter of the control of the matter/or the process. We can have a expectation of mutual outcome, but we still work in this process with people, that all have their different goals/ideas. This can damage the trust that such a process demands.

A number of years ago, (true story) during the para-olympics there was the 200m wheelchair racing. All 8 nations where represented and each one of the participants had trained extensively. When the start shot was given, the participants started to race and you could see that each one of them was very good in racing. There was a strong competion among them, each one of them wanted to win of course! But half way the race something happenend, one of the racers wheelchair broke down and he fall. His wheelchair broke into pieces and the racer fall to the ground. Everyone was chocked. The other racers stopped, looked back and as one they all hurried back to the one that was fallen. They all picked him up and what was left of the wheelchair and together they went to the finish. Not racing anymore and in one line they crossed the finish line. The audience stood to their feet and aplauded for a long time of what had happened. Who won? What was accomplished? How did it effect the racers, the audience, us?

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